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Post by jk on Dec 18, 2020 0:32:26 GMT
Hey jk , it's fine to send strangers messages, I did it many times, still do.😎 Got few friends thru it. & the other places in the Internet. Maybe they need time b4 replying you back.🤘 Hi zz. Thanks for the reassurance. Maybe they do need time. We'll see.
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Post by Kapitan on Dec 18, 2020 0:34:02 GMT
The other random thought concerns something that happened to me at EH. This poster has been giving me some support at a couple of my (let's say) specialized threads. Although I'd thanked them on-forum, something induced me to message them with some thoughts I'd been having. It wasn't anything particularly outrageous but later it struck me that I was treating a complete stranger as if they were a long-time friend I could say anything to. At all events, my message went unanswered. I waited a day and then sent them a slightly over-the-top apology, which may have only made matters worse. They're still around, which is a relief. Whether they'll get back to me at those topics remains to be seen. Oh the perils and pitfalls of the internet!! I find that at a certain point, there is just no "right answer" with these things. Some people are very receptive and open to any and all communications, others are horrified at the thought someone would have the audacity, and most of us are somewhere in-between. In the end, we can only all do our best in good faith and hope others don't take offense.
You're an interesting and kind person. I can't imagine someone would be seriously offended by that kind of potential/arguable over-familiarity. But on the off chance s/he was, well, ... I guess I don't know. It sucks, but one can't control other people's reactions.
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Post by jk on Dec 18, 2020 8:40:31 GMT
The other random thought concerns something that happened to me at EH. This poster has been giving me some support at a couple of my (let's say) specialized threads. Although I'd thanked them on-forum, something induced me to message them with some thoughts I'd been having. It wasn't anything particularly outrageous but later it struck me that I was treating a complete stranger as if they were a long-time friend I could say anything to. At all events, my message went unanswered. I waited a day and then sent them a slightly over-the-top apology, which may have only made matters worse. They're still around, which is a relief. Whether they'll get back to me at those topics remains to be seen. Oh the perils and pitfalls of the internet!! I find that at a certain point, there is just no "right answer" with these things. Some people are very receptive and open to any and all communications, others are horrified at the thought someone would have the audacity, and most of us are somewhere in-between. In the end, we can only all do our best in good faith and hope others don't take offense.
You're an interesting and kind person. I can't imagine someone would be seriously offended by that kind of potential/arguable over-familiarity. But on the off chance s/he was, well, ... I guess I don't know. It sucks, but one can't control other people's reactions.
Thank you for your kind words, Cap'n. Maybe you should add the words "sometimes spectacularly tactless" to your list of adjectives (rereading what I casually posted here last night).
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Post by Kapitan on Dec 18, 2020 13:18:35 GMT
Oh, I wouldn't say that. Not at all.
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Post by jk on Jan 2, 2021 22:46:23 GMT
This poster has been giving me some support at a couple of my (let's say) specialized threads. Although I'd thanked them on-forum, something induced me to message them with some thoughts I'd been having. It wasn't anything particularly outrageous but later it struck me that I was treating a complete stranger as if they were a long-time friend I could say anything to. At all events, my message went unanswered. I waited a day and then sent them a slightly over-the-top apology, which may have only made matters worse. They're still around, which is a relief. I find that at a certain point, there is just no "right answer" with these things. Some people are very receptive and open to any and all communications, others are horrified at the thought someone would have the audacity, and most of us are somewhere in-between. In the end, we can only all do our best in good faith and hope others don't take offense.
You're an interesting and kind person. I can't imagine someone would be seriously offended by that kind of potential/arguable over-familiarity. But on the off chance s/he was, well, ... I guess I don't know. It sucks, but one can't control other people's reactions.
Fact of the matter is that they've now left the forum. Those specialized threads have now taken on a new and darker meaning. I may be a bit morose for a while, for which my apologies, but I'm bound to come round in time. The internet can be such a strange place.
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Post by Kapitan on Feb 23, 2021 18:55:12 GMT
You know how in the Beach Boys 2021 thread I said some not-so-nice things about companies that change their philosophy from being what they are (e.g. Gibson Guitars as guitar maker; Harley Davidson as motorcycle maker)?
Right now, Rolling Stone has a story on the best sweaters of 2021. After all, "Sweatshirts are now a wardrobe essential, whether you’re video conferencing, running errands or binging Netflix," as the subhead reads.
That is all.
Wait, no, not quite: if you feel the omnipresent pressure of those poor souls lacking appropriate sweatshirts just as it becomes obvious to all involved that sweatshirts are a wardrobe essential in 2021, the good folks at Rolling Stone have a story listing the best sweaters of 2021. You're a freakish outcast no longer, you can now join the cool kids with the appropriate--nay, the essential--sweatshirts.
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Post by kds on Feb 23, 2021 19:13:34 GMT
Rolling Stone is to music as MTV is to music.
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Post by kds on Jun 16, 2021 18:05:49 GMT
I don't know why I thought about this, especially since my vacation is still just under a month away.
But, grocery shopping the day after vacation is the most defeating grocery store run of the year. At least for me, I tend to gorge a bit on vacation on treats like fries, pizza, burgers, crab cakes, ice cream, etc, but then, it's back to fruits, veggies, lean protein, and light carbs.
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Post by kds on Jun 24, 2021 18:48:17 GMT
If pop star Dua Lipa doesn't partner with a brewery to release a beer called Dual IPA, she's missing out on a huge branding opportunity.
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Post by Sheriff John Stone on Jun 24, 2021 21:05:15 GMT
If pop star Dua Lipa doesn't partner with a brewery to release a beer called Dual IPA, she's missing out on a huge branding opportunity. Don't know her music but she is a beauty.
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Post by kds on Jun 25, 2021 12:18:06 GMT
If pop star Dua Lipa doesn't partner with a brewery to release a beer called Dual IPA, she's missing out on a huge branding opportunity. Don't know her music but she is a beauty.
She apparently used to be a model. She's recently released a string of extremely catchy / hooky pop hits that seem to follow me any time I go anywhere. Not my cup of tea, but at least....it's not Billie Eilish.
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Post by jk on Aug 9, 2021 19:12:28 GMT
I find that at a certain point, there is just no "right answer" with these things. Some people are very receptive and open to any and all communications, others are horrified at the thought someone would have the audacity, and most of us are somewhere in-between. In the end, we can only all do our best in good faith and hope others don't take offense.
You're an interesting and kind person. I can't imagine someone would be seriously offended by that kind of potential/arguable over-familiarity. But on the off chance s/he was, well, ... I guess I don't know. It sucks, but one can't control other people's reactions.
Fact of the matter is that they've now left the forum. Those specialized threads have now taken on a new and darker meaning. I may be a bit morose for a while, for which my apologies, but I'm bound to come round in time. The internet can be such a strange place. Incredibly, history has just repeated itself -- same place, same poster! Just when there seemed to be a glimmer of hope, too. There really are times when I wonder whether I should be on a message board at all. Sorry about that, folks -- it's all I can think about right now. Normal service will be resumed as soon as possible.
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Post by Kapitan on Aug 9, 2021 20:01:30 GMT
There really are times when I wonder whether I should be on a message board at all. Well you're certainly very welcome and appreciated here. Sorry to hear about the bad experience redux, though.
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Post by jk on Aug 9, 2021 20:57:22 GMT
There really are times when I wonder whether I should be on a message board at all. Well you're certainly very welcome and appreciated here. Sorry to hear about the bad experience redux, though. It was the wall of silence I couldn't handle -- silence online can mean almost anything. It makes it very difficult to know what to do. And the chances are good that whatever you do, it will end badly. And it did. I was contemplating quitting BB message boards altogether. That would have been foolish. I do feel welcome here -- thanks, Cap'n.
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Post by jk on Aug 10, 2021 12:32:16 GMT
Hey jk, bro, don't give up with the guy/gurl. Maybe they never been popular, then suddenly get lotsa messages by you - could be too much to bear to them, like they get attention galore 101. Or, if they're the "sorry" message haters, just like I, they maybe dislike you saying it (is it by chance littlesurfer?). For example: "I'm so sorry", "Sorry to hear that", "Yikes, sorry about it"./2$ There's no one to give up with now -- they've gone. Of course, they may be back (stranger things have happened)... [Edit: If you're going to start naming names, zinczag , it's best to take it to PMs.] "Sorry" message haters? I've never heard of that one before! Sorry is a fantastic word when the situation calls for it. And yes, I've used it often (too often?) to the person in question. I'm sorry if it offends you. Seriously though, thanks for the feedback.
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