Post by bellbottoms on Feb 16, 2020 14:16:21 GMT
Ouch, I can imagine the gut-punch feeling when Scooter finally opted to stay downstairs for the first time after all those years. It's the outcome you always wanted, but not at his expense. But just like when we had to separate Penny from her sister, I wonder if it's harder on us than it is on them.
I had a similar experience with my second cat, Scooter. As I mentioned above, my cats always had the run of the house - except the bedroom - for a number of reasons. I'm a light sleeper, I didn't want cat hair on the sheets and bed spread, there is clothing sitting/hanging all over the bedroom, and there is a bathroom off the bedroom that I wanted to keep cat hair-free.
The first night I had Scooter home as a kitten, he followed me everywhere, but when I went to bed I closed the bedroom door. Well, poor Scooter started meowing and pawing at the closed door for what seemed like an hour. I felt terrible but I considered it part of his training. And, EVERY NIGHT for YEARS, when I went to bed, Scooter would meow and paw at the door. Now, the length of time decreased over time, first the meowing and then the pawing, but not completely. I continued to feel guilty but I held my ground, rationalizing that the cat had the rest of the entire house to sleep.
Then a funny thing happened. Well, not really funny. One night I closed the bedroom door and went to bed but something was wrong. Scooter didn't meow and he didn't paw. He wasn't at the door. I jumped out of bed and opened the bedroom door but he wasn't there. I called out, "Here Scooter! Here Scooter!" But he didn't come. He stayed downstairs. And I had this terrible sadness come upon me. Scooter had given up, and I felt so guilty. It changed the way I felt about Scooter. I never took him for granted again and I appreciated him more. But I still kept the bedroom door closed.